Teen Coach: How to take care of your heart?
On the day the social media world hurts us :)
Have you ever followed a friend or someone online and felt like…
- Why does my friend post a picture and she looks so thin and beautiful that she's cute even when she's wearing clothes at home? There are only people pressing likes, overwhelming comments, and compliments, compared to us who have already posted pictures. No one is interested because I'm fat, have a bad figure, and have a bad face.
- Why don't your friends read books and live a leisurely life, but get better scores on exams? Even though we tried hard, we still got low scores.
- Why don't my friends accept me into their group? Because our follow count is less than 10,000++
- Why are other people's lives so good? Eat at expensive restaurants and travel abroad. Shop around for brand names. For our part, the pocket money was barely enough to cover our expenses. We had to ask our parents for more, which was accompanied by long complaints that we were extravagant.
- Why is it so easy for influencers to make money? There are only good things to use. I see that they post photos every day and they don't see anything doing anything. As for us, we have to help our parents every day. Otherwise, the home will lack income.
And many more questions that don't have answers. We are happy to go with him, but we can't help but be jealous, hurt ourselves, and feel bad and depressed. Sometimes it goes to the point of being angry at our parents and bullying people around us for not being able to give us what we want to be like people in the social world.
Social media causes users to compare themselves with others. Until we feel like we're lacking And there are many expectations such as lifestyle and appearance that are unlikely to be realistic (Unrealistic Standards) in the past, before the online world came to have this much influence. Standards of beauty and lifestyle come from celebrities seen in print media and television. But nowadays, people who influence us create rules for our thoughts. They are ordinary people who are influencers and people close to them who upload pictures and messages telling about their seemingly ordinary lives, such as what they eat and eat. How to dress But it's special for us. Because it makes us want something. Behind the scenes, his real life may not be all that good. Because he selects only the good aspects. What do you want to show us? Don't reveal the bad angles. But it makes us think in general terms that a good life must be like this. So we try to pursue and make it the way he has and is. (Like on social media) until we are exhausted. and have serious doubts about ourselves (Perfect Strom of Self Doubt) about whether we are good enough or not. It may be to the point where we lose confidence in ourselves (Low Self-esteem) because we are too different from the other person.
From Dr. Sealnam's experience in treating patients Most patients are suffering because of the increasing world of social media, such as being depressed because of being bullied online (Cyber Bullying), fighting with people at home because they didn't buy things for them as their friends posted to boast about. Fasting until body weight is below the ideal level I want plastic surgery to be beautiful like an influencer. I want to have a boyfriend online who calls and chats all the time because my friends in the group have each other. Arguing, cursing and teasing via IG Story and many more epic stories. That was sparked by wanting and wanting to be like people in the online world. On the surface, it might seem normal. But it is seriously bad for your mental health. Dr. Sealnam would like to share information so that the children can live in this digital age with good mental health, knowledge and able to manage problems appropriately.
Research results on the mental health of teenagers and social media.
From statistics around the world It has been found that each year teenagers are increasingly using social media. For example, in developing countries, 94 percent of teenagers use social media. The proportion of use of apps such as Facebook, Instagram, Snapchat, Youtube, WhatsApp, Twitter, Line of each age group and usage trends in each year are not the same.
Most teenagers use social media to communicate with others through pictures, clips, interact through liking, commenting, and sharing. And the negative effects of using social media a lot cause comparisons. I think I'm lacking. Not as good as others Have low self esteem. Want to be something that doesn't seem real, such as a thin body wearing a size 0 shirt. Must have a small V-shaped face and a high nose to be called beautiful. Some people suffer from eating disorders (Eating Disorder: Anorexia, Bulimia), body dysmorphic disorder (Body Dysmorphic Disorder), leading to depression, self-harm, or thoughts of wanting to die
Many teenagers are being bullied online. (Cyberbullying) such as a violent insult tour There is an anti-government group that spreads rumors or photoshopped images to damage one's reputation. For example, teenagers in the United States report that 60 percent have experienced emotional abuse online. Until it may cause psychiatric illness. Some people harm themselves and commit suicide because they hate and cannot accept who they are.
Teenagers who use social media for more than 3 hours per day increase their risk of developing psychiatric illnesses such as anxiety, depression, thoughts of suicide (Suicidal Thoughts), and hating their appearance. yourself (Negative Self-image) and feeling lonely (Loneliness)
Each year, more and more teenagers are suffering from depression and committing suicide. which is related to the high use of mobile phones. On the other hand, teenagers who engage in activities such as playing sports and drawing will reduce their risk of developing psychiatric illnesses.
There are brain scans of people with Social Media Addiction has been found to have abnormal brain structure and function similar to people who are actually addicted to drugs. The area that is most abnormal is the brain's Reward Center. When you use social media or use drugs, your brain will release dopamine, which gives you a short burst of happiness. When this substance decreases The brain wants to get another. Therefore, there is a behavior that causes this substance to be secreted more. If you observe carefully when we use the app. The more often we use it, we will add more and more time to it because of the design of the functions in the app. The aim is to make people who play addictive.
University students are in a period of transition that requires a lot of adjustment, such as the study system, leaving home to live in a dormitory, relying on oneself, changing friend groups. This can be very stressful for children. There is an ever-increasing number of students committing suicide, even though in the world of social media those students post good-looking messages and pictures (Projected A Perfect Image on Social Media) that make us want to follow along. (Through editing the app And the story is sometimes not accurate!) But beneath the smile, there is enormous suffering. Because you have to try to do everything as you think other people in the online world expect. The reason why one's identity in the social world is opposite to a damaged state of mind is because one wants to conceal imperfections, such as anxiety and depression, because they think it shows weakness. Then you will not be accepted by those around you. Tired of having to pretend to change to please others?
Engagement and comments are judgments from the virtual world that we interpret as real, such as seeing the number of likes, shares, and comments from just one status. Even though it's actually a hypothetical thing. It comes from people we both know and don't know. Trolling the keyboard, etc. But children understand it as a compliment or a criticism. “Identity” of all children Even though it's actually just letters/pictures that are just a fraction of life.
6 ways to take care of your heart so that it doesn't flow to social media.
1. Know and understand the negative effects of excessive social media use.
Adults and children must talk and exchange opinions. Understand the negative consequences of wasting too much or unmoderated time online. Help analyze and distinguish what is fake and what is real. What should we value? Because many times, even though we know that what we saw was made up, But the influence from various images and messages will erode into our hearts without realizing it. Therefore, you must be aware (Self Awareness) and stop your thoughts from being distracted. Then return to reality
2. Nothing is perfect in this world and it takes effort.
If you just look at the online world, everyone looks good and is successful. Even though you don't have to exert much effort, it's very easy. No one will show off their failures. Until we understand that “Everything is done right away and the results will be good.” But the reality is that we will get what we want, depending on many factors. Nothing comes easy. must recognize failure Be able to accept mistakes and solve problems. Adults must praise children and teach children to praise themselves for the value of their efforts more than the results. Along the way we do certain things to achieve our goals. We have learned a lot of things. If we do it and succeed, it's good. But if not, that's okay. Because no one of us is perfect in everything (Imperfect).
3. Set a social media-free day (Social Holiday).
Family, society, the group we belong to You must set a day when you don't use social media (Social Holiday). Change from seeing each other in front of a screen to actually seeing each other, doing activities, interacting. We learned that doing things other than the screen can be fun too.
4. “You don't have to look good and be happy all the time.”
Accept what happens in the real world You don't have to try to force a cheerful smile to make your life good in order for people in the online world to accept it. It's actually very easy to avoid toxicity from social media, that is, you don't have to open and look at it. Don't go in there. When you don't understand, you don't suffer. But is it difficult to decide not to open and watch it?
5. Believe and trust people in the real world.
People we meet in person, we can learn their thoughts and habits in real life. Both good and bad sides Because when things happen, people can't secretly be nice all the time. Here we all know that when our lives are in dire straits, they are ready to help and encourage us to get through the bad days. Or kick us and send us running away. Sometimes people from the online world seem to help through the letters "Keep fighting". I don't know if they're actually typing this to encourage them or if they just want to participate and increase the number of engagements to show their kindness. In the end, when problems arise, we and those around us in real life must help each other overcome them.
6. If we change, see a professional for help.
People who are heavily stuck in the online world Sometimes he may be running away from something from real life, such as failing an exam, being scolded by his parents, friends not liking him, feeling very discouraged and wanting encouragement. When entering social media Post a picture of yourself that looks good through the app, gets compliments, and makes you feel more comfortable. But in the end, real-world problems are not solved. When the screen is turned off, sadness, discouragement, and hopelessness come crashing in until you can't sleep, become blurred, can't think straight, want to disappear if you don't take action to solve the problem or ask for help from someone. Life spirals downward, leading to depression. Most often, Social Media Addiction is the cause of the disease. At its core is another disease such as depression (Depression), anxiety disorder (Anxiety), attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD), learning problems, causing suffering. If you want to feel good, you have to go online. If the root cause of the disease is treated, it will help reduce your use of social media. By seeing an expert such as a psychiatrist or psychologist who will help find the cause. plan together and provide holistic treatment Problems that arise will be resolved in a better way.
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